The Mommy Makeover

As a 38-year-old mother of two, I have been struggling with self-confidence as it relates to my body image for the past 20 months. When I had my first child almost four and a half years ago, I found that my body snapped back pretty quickly. By the time my daughter was six months old, I was within three pounds of my pre-pregnancy weight, and I easily fit into my pre-pregnancy clothes. After tearing my right ACL almost a year and a half after my daughter was born, I began to gain weight, and I noticed that the weight gain looked different on me than it did before I had my daughter. I went on the Weight Watchers program and found new ways to work out that did not negatively impact my knee (mostly walking and other low-impact exercises). Within a few months, I was once again within three pounds of my pre-pregnancy weight, and I was feeling great.

Just a month after meeting my Weight Watchers goal, I started a round of IVF treatments and became pregnant with my second child. The IVF cycle I went through to become pregnant with my son did some really weird stuff to my body. I gained twenty pounds before I even peed on a stick! Once the pregnancy hormones kicked in, it was all food all the time for me!

I love to eat. During both of my pregnancies, I had a bad habit of eating a lot of all the wrong things because I felt like I could get away with it. I ended up failing my gestational diabetes tests MISERABLY with my son’s pregnancy and was put on a very strict diet. This diet helped me drastically slow my weight gain for the remainder of my pregnancy with my son, but it was too little too late; the damage was done. Twenty months after the birth of my son, my body is NOTHING like it was before I had children.

For the last six months or so, I have been working very hard to lose weight, tone, and get some of my old self back. I was very active and fit before I started having children, and it’s important to me to regain this old part of myself. I also want desperately to undo the huge changes I see in my body…especially in my abdomen. Ironically, as I lose weight, my abdomen actually looks worse. For the last few months, I have been contemplating having plastic surgery…a mini tummy tuck, specifically. I set a “fluffy” deadline for myself of having the surgery before I turn fabulous forty.
AdvertisementWell, I have started to do some research, and I think I am changing my mind. There are some really great web sites out there that give a real-life account of what it is like to go through plastic surgery and recover from it.

My inner child is still quite scarred just from the experience I had with each of my children’s emergency c-sections. After reading real-life accounts of what it is like to endure and recover from a tummy tuck (abdominoplasty), I just cannot wrap my mind around going through what sounds like a very similar experience again.

How about you, lovely readers? Do you have any opinions about the mommy makeover? Have you experienced one? If so, would you do it again or recommend the experience to a mommy friend?

4 Comments on The Mommy Makeover

  1. I find myself ambivalent about my post-kid body. Four years after being pregnant, I’m finally in a place where I feel good about my body, thanks to a lot of exercise and watching what I eat. But I think living in a city like Austin (especially during the summer when folks are wearing less clothing), comparing yourself to others, it’s hard not to want to look even better. I think I have watched too much reality TV about plastic surgery, though! So while I can understand why moms undergo procedures, I don’t think I could go under the knife.

  2. I will be getting a tummy tuck. A few other things too. But unlike your story kids are not my only reason. I was heavy for a good portion of my life. Long before I had kids I was obese. I have gone up and down over and over again. Getting pregnant with my firstkids really made it worse. While I only gain 28 pounds it pit me at a very very high weight. I had complications that were most likely from my weight. I lost 50 pounds and then got pg with number two. Still I was over weight but was better off than the first time. Now I decided it is time to get my life back and in control. I have lost a lot of weight and a downside of that is loose skin and a stomach that still looks pregnant thanks to non exisiting ab muscles (separated with pg and never went back). So while I still have about 40 pounds more to lose I can see the damage is done. Clothes won’t fit and I won’t ever be comfortable with this skin. I have decided it (plastic surgery) is a part of my journey. I have had plastics before (a necessity) and know the dangers, recoveries and possible negative outcomes. I am willing to do it and am excited to do it as well.

  3. Also, I workout very much and have become very healthy. But no matter the amount of exercise skin can only bounce back so much. Especially with the amount of stretching I’ve done to it. It’s like my skin is a constant daily reminder of all my negative choices in the past and I can’t fully appreciate my hard work with it staring back at me. Just my two cents.

  4. To each his own. I love that we live in a country where women can make decisions like this individually and discuss opinions about it without loosing their cool. But, for me personally, a mommy makeover includes a mani/pedi, a fab new hairstyle, and some new threads. The idea of having an optional surgery is too far outside my comfort zone. All surgery is dangerous and I’m not willing to risk my child not having a momma (or maybe having a sick momma) for vanity’s sake. Also, I don’t like the emphasis that these kinds of surgery put on outward appearance. I don’t want to perpetuate what I see as societal oppression of women in America. Maybe I’m unrealistic but I prefer my kid to see the natural aging process and trade-off of motherhood as beauty instead of something that needs to be sliced off.

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