It seems lately that many moms I know are struggling with the issue of working vs. staying home. A couple of friends are pregnant with their first child, while others have children already and are just burnt out from working and having a family at the same time. I worked full-time with my first son for eight years, not because I loved to work, but I was the breadwinner in our family and I had no other option. We needed two incomes and that was that. Now, in my second marriage, I had toyed around with the idea of taking a break from work for a long time, even prior to getting pregnant with my second child. I would day dream as I was supposed to be working about all of the things I could do with my life if I could only quit my job. I never would have quit if I didn’t have another baby, but the idea of it helped me through many mental meltdowns!
I’ve realized that it takes guts to be a stay-at-home mom. It also takes a lot of guts to be a working mom. So you see, the decision is never easy. It would be nice if society wasn’t so tough on women. Maybe it is possible to be superwoman- work full-time, raise outstanding little humans, keep a tidy house, an immaculate, sexy appearance AND have a healthy, homemade dinner on the table every night. Not to mention all of the other little things that we do day in and day out. Oh, and let’s not forget about your duties as a wife! It seems as if we have to pick and choose which things we do best and outsource the rest, with the exception being the wife duties, right?
I want to give my friends and women everywhere the easy answer, but have come to the conclusion that there never is an easy answer. So, I just listen to them talk it out and tell them bits and pieces of my story when I’m asked. A couple of them have asked me to bring this topic up . Maybe you can share parts of your story on working or staying home in our comments to let them see how others are managing this thing called mom.