To be or not to be–the dilemma of the mommy blogger

Is the term “Mommy blogger” still loaded?

I didn’t really start reading blogs until I starting writing for one in 2008. At the time, my son was two years old, I had quit my part-time job and I was spending much more time online. My world had changed from conference calls and paperwork to playdates and whatever methods I could think of to increase my adult interaction.

I started reading a few blogs written by mothers. Mommy blogs provided me with ways to keep up with friends spread across the country, find people who shared similar parenting styles, feel like I wasn’t alone in dealing with a particular challenge and, perhaps most importantly, laugh and enjoy good writing. At first I felt strange and slightly voyueristic when I started reading blogs of people I didn’t know. But, it couldn’t be any worse than following celebrities on TMZ, right?

I quickly gravitated towards certain blogs. I stopped following others. I started to comment. I finally moved my favorites over to Google Reader.

Perhaps because I never started my own blog, I have always been mystified with the stigma surrounding “mommy blogs”. In particular, I’m surprised when women avoid being called a mommy blogger or of having a mommy blog. I’m guessing, women who don’t think being a mom defines all of who they are. I did find this article that summed up many stereotypes I tend to hear about mom blogs.Advertisement
It seems that when mommy blogging started, there was a general feeling that moms were always complaining and going into sordid details of the elimination habits of the household. Then, when marketers started recognizing the power of moms as a marketing force, mommy bloggers were inundated with requests to review products or spread the word about new services. Moms were able to use their blogs to bring in some income, and in rare cases, to make a living.

Fast forward to today. There still seems to be a stigma attached to mommy blogging, albeit perhaps less pronounced. There are still millions of mommy blogs out there. Moms are also connecting in many other ways online. Will the mommy blog soon be a thing of the past?

Do you call yourself a mommy blogger? Is there still a stigma attached to the term? If you blog and are a mom but don’t consider yourself a mommy blogger, what do you call yourself? Will Facebook and Twitter replace mommy blogs?

Written by: Nicole Basham

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A native Austinite and soccer-playing mom, Nicole uses her 10-year-old son as an excuse to rediscover her hometown through his eyes. In Thoreau's words, her mission is to "suck out all the marrow of life", or in her son's words, to cultivate in him a love of "advenchers".

5 Comments on To be or not to be–the dilemma of the mommy blogger

  1. I think it really shows where we are as women nowadays- we want to have kids but we also want more out of life. We want a career, passions, other interests besides our children. Being a “mommy blogger” lumps us all into a category of only having one interest: being a mom who only thinks of her children and nothing else. It’s that constant pressure that is put on us to do more, have more, be more…. as if raising children is not hard enough! And so being a “mommy blogger” kind of implies that you have nothing else in your life that is exciting, other than poopy diapers and baby food. Because everyone knows that once you become a mom, life stops…. (kidding)!!

  2. I never even knew there was a stigma! But probably due to the class I’m currently taking in multiculturalism, which deals a lot with gender bias and sexism, I take the mommy-blog stigma to be yet another example of the power of sexism and the patriarchy. Seems like anything purely female is always looked down upon, even by other women; and Mommy blogs, by definition, are that.

    So, are there Daddy blogs…? If so, what’s the attitude surrounding those?

  3. I was just talking about this yesterday with my husband. “All moms that blog are complaining about being a mom” is a drag and I believe undermines what is really being shared.

    I don’t call myself a mommy blogger because I write about being me and only part of what I write about is being a mom. Being a mother is one of many things I do and by no means defines me. But, like many experiences, being a parent has affected who I am and how I see the world. So has being a spouse.

    I’m also a big fan of social media. It’s a great tool for moms from cost savings to networking to keeping up with the modern work environment. These tools are effective because the time commitment is is short. But women also like to have connections. I’ve made some great new friends in my community via Twitter and now we bring those online relationships to a restaurant IRL!

    And yes, there is a rise in the Daddy-blogger but parenting is supposed to hard for dads not moms right! ;)

  4. I’m a Mommy Blogger! I blog about me and my kids, so it makes sense to me.

    Early on, I used to see a lot of journally-type Mommy Blogs. I think those blogs have a bad rap and they taint the Mommy Blog image.

    I have seen Mommy Blogs get a lot better, with a clear voice and a focus on the reader. Maybe the reputation will catch up!

  5. I’m a mommy blogger and a feminist! Wow. Two terms people (other women!) aren’t comfortable with and yet they both capture so many wonderful things about being a woman. I’m also many other things.

    Hell yes, I’m going to talk about my child! She’s the biggest part of my life and will always be. How she relates to the rest of my life is where I want my blog to go. I do see my focus evolving as I continue to write and do the other things that in my life that will shape what I write about.

    I also notice that people (my no-child friends) mention things that I’ve written in the blog. When they do it’s almost like they’re not supposed to be reading it and like they hide in the closet while reading. I think it’s kind of funny and flattering at the same time. They want a “taste” of it without admitting to anything.

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