Often times, as moms, we gather around the slide or the sandbox while our kids play to discuss issues that are on our minds. Since LiveMom is primarily an online community of local Austin moms, we thought we would start a discussion about issues that are important to us and that we think may also be important to you. Instead of meeting at the park, we can have a little chat here online at our virtual playground. Feel free to share your thoughts with us to keep the conversation going.
Has your career path/ aspirations changed since you have had a baby?
Despite what “everyone” said, I thought having a child wouldn’t disrupt my working life. I planned to go back to work full-time and split the care between my mom and a day care I found close to my house. If only the pre-baby me could see me now!
When my son was 2 months old, I went back to work full time. I soon realized I wasn’t cut out for it. I approached my boss, who was receptive to my going part-time. My husband and I altered our budget to make it work. I did this for a year, but was never able to reconcile my workaholic ways with my new priorities. So when my son was 14 months old, when many moms were considering re-entering the workforce, I left it. I searched around for the “perfect job” and grew to love staying at home.
Now, with just a year and a half until my son is in elementary school, I still have no idea what the future holds for me. Guess I still have a while to figure it all out….
My career plans have definitely changed since becoming a mom. I always thought I might do something in politics or government after my kids went to school. It never dawned on me what I would want my kids to do during summer when school is out. Since having that brought to my attention (thanks Mom!), I have begun to think about something more flexible so that I can continue to be home during summer and after school for my kids until they are old enough to really be on their own. I am currently planning to become an RN. I would love to do L&D but, until my kids are older, I might just shoot for school nurse so that we can have the same schedule. I know that growing up it was not a second thought that my mom was always around for us but, now that I am a mom, I want to offer my children the same and be home when they are home (as much as my sanity will allow.)
I have had two very different experiences with each of my kids; with the first, I was the primary breadwinner and so not working was not an option for me. Luckily, I had a supportive company who allowed me to work fewer hours so that I could have a more flexible schedule to be with my son. Still, I felt trapped and sad that I was sending him off everyday and missing out on all of his milestones. I just had no other option. Then, life changed, I became pregnant with my second child and was fortunate enough to have a husband who made enough money to support my role as a stay-at-home mom.
With that said, when I was thrown into the role of SAHM, I knew that I couldn’t JUST do that. I felt and still do feel like I always have to have something that I can do career wise, even if it is not a big money producer. My aspirations have definitely changed, though. I now have the opportunity to try an entirely new career out and am still pondering what it is that I like. There are so many choices! I do know that my life is so much less stressful without having a full-time job and kids. I don’t know how I did it all of those years and really applaud all working mamas! I wonder, why do so many of us moms feel that being a stay-at-home mom is never enough? Must be the constant pressure of having it all…..